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In short, although we say we love religion and marriage, Cherlin notes, “religious Americans are more likely to divorce than secular Swedes.” Cherlin believes the reason for this paradox is that Americans hold two values at once: a culture of marriage and a culture of individualism.Or is it an American spirit of optimism wedded, if you will, to a Tocquevillian spirit of restlessness that inspires three out of four Americans to say they believe marriage is for life, while only one in four agreed with the notion that even if a marriage is unhappy, one should stay put for the sake of the children.

At the same time, Americans endure the highest divorce rate in the Western world.If America is a “divorce culture,” it may be partly because we are a “marriage culture,” since we both divorce and marry (a projected 90 percent of us) at some of the highest rates anywhere on the globe.Hence Cherlin’s cautionary advice consists of two words—“Slow down”—his chief worry about our frenetic marriage-go-round being its negative impact on our children.of the women I regularly dine with, now that I have a divorced person’s oddly relaxed—oddly civilized, even horribly French? It has been almost 10 years since I dined with adults on a weekly basis.My domestic evenings have typically revolved around five o’clock mac and cheese under bright lighting and then a slow melt into dishes and Sponge Bob …Sobered by this failure as a mother—which is to say, my failure as a wife—I’ve since begun a journey of reading, thinking, and listening to what’s going on in other 21st-century American families.

And along the way, I’ve begun to wonder, what with all the abject and swallowed misery: Why do we still insist on marriage? I am a 47-year-old woman whose commitment to monogamy, at the very end, came unglued. I don’t generally even enjoy men; I had an entirely manageable life and planned to go to my grave taking with me, as I do most nights to my bed, a glass of merlot and a good book. We cried, we rent our hair, we bewailed the fate of our children. My husband is a good man, though he did travel 20 weeks a year for work.These are the youngsters who are likely to suffer, according to a measurable matrix of factors such as truancy, disobedience in school, and teen pregnancy.Instead of preaching marriage, Cherlin says, we should preach domestic stability for children. Apparently not, at least not the way we do it in America.After all, we can easily arrange to sit far from our exes, across the flower-bedecked aisle, so as not to roil the festive day. At least that is the attitudinal yin/yang described by Andrew J.

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